It’s so easy to listen to the world & the lies that people try to tell us about who they think we are and what they think we should be. But you were given a name, that name carries a meaning and that name was given to you specifically. That’s not a coincidence. The name you were given was chosen specifically for you. What is your name? What does it mean? My name means “we are please” and “we are blessed”. My middle name means “happiness”. It’s only now that I’m realising more and more that what I decide to call myself and what I decide to believe about myself determines my perception of myself and ultimately, how I carry myself and relate to others. How you carry yourself also has a huge impact on your productivity and how far you allow yourself to progress in life, your career, your emotional intelligence and overall wellbeing.
Roughly 4 years ago, I decided that I wasn’t going to listen to negative things people say about me or to me. I don’t want to live my life basing how I feel on other people’s opinions. Other people’s opinions are not facts. Get to know yourself if you don’t already. Learn your own strengths and weaknesses. Learn what you like and dislike. Understand that your weaknesses can help you grow because you’ve found specific areas within you where you can grow. Surround yourself mainly with people who add value to your life and keep a healthy distance from the ones who don’t. Understand that we are all different and special in our own ways regardless of if anyone has ever tried to tell you that you’re not. You are! Make a list of all your strengths and weaknesses and start improving yourself day by day. Tell yourself you’re worthy of being loved because we all are. Tell yourself that you’re strong until you believe it. Tell yourself that you’re capable of achieving absolutely anything and that you don’t have to exhaust yourself or compete with anyone to get it.
A very wise man I know recently told me that he believes in being the best at everything he does. That’s the level of confidence you should continuously work on. Don’t give yourself limitations or excuses. Don’t look to the left or to the right, just forwards and upwards. Believe that you can and WILL be the best at everything you put your hands on. Say, “everything I touch turns to gold!”.
Your mind will believe everything you tell it. Fill your mind with love, life, passion, kindness and peace. The more time you spend filling your mind with kind words about yourself, the less time you spend on allowing other people to put you down or feel less than what you are. Love yourself and don’t round your edges. Everything is in you for a reason, love and appreciate every inch of it. Speak life into your own life, every single day.
They say repetition is the father of learning. Make a conscious decision to tell yourself good things about yourself everyday. Stand in front of your mirror, look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Say “I am loved. I am loveable. I am love”..
I’ve made a list of affirmation which I hope help you build confidence, feel happier and love yourself and your life more and more. The first list is focused specifically on you. The second list is for those who believe in God, follow the bible or would like to know biblical verses they can use everyday as declarations about themselves. Say what God says about you.